Therapy for People Pleasing & Perfectionism
Are you living at the mercy of everyone else’s expectations?
You’ve always been the reliable one. The helper. The one who shows up. The one who keeps the peace, anticipates needs, and does it all with a smile—no matter how exhausted you feel inside.
You’ve worked hard to excel in every area of your life, but it never feels like enough. You worry about letting people down. You hold yourself to impossible standards (you know what I mean - that really nasty voice you have in your head that screams at you when you fall even slightly short of your own expectations. You replay conversations in your head, wondering if you said the wrong thing. You feel guilty for resting, asking for help.
You might be thinking:
No one will love me if I’m not perfect.
If I say no, people will hate me.
I don’t deserve to rest [subtext: my worth and value are based on my productivity].
You’re not alone, I’ve been here, too. And you’re not broken. These patterns often come from growing up in environments where your worth felt tied to what you did for others or how well you performed. They’re ways you learned to feel safe, valued, and loved. But they may no longer be serving you now.
Imagine if you could:
✨ Say “no” without spiraling in guilt or fear.
✨ Feel good enough, even when you aren’t perfect.
✨ Take a day off without feeling like you need to “earn it.”
✨ Have relationships where your needs matter, too.
✨ Let yourself rest without a constant undercurrent of anxiety.
I can help you untangle these patterns so you can live with more ease, freedom, and self-trust.
How I can help …
I know what it’s like to feel stuck in people-pleasing and perfectionism. Let me help you reclaim your time, energy, and learn to take up some space. Together, we will:
🔮Understand where these patterns came from and why they feel so hard to break.
🔮Build self-compassion and learn to recognize your needs without shame.
🔮Learn practical tools for setting boundaries in a way that feels aligned and sustainable.
🔮Unhook your worth from productivity and other people’s approval.
🔮Explore how perfectionism and people-pleasing may be tied to anxiety, trauma, or your stage of life.
I use a blend of evidence-based approaches, including EMDR, mindfulness, inner child work, and self-compassion to help you shift these patterns on a deep level.
